We often hear about the importance of “knowing who you are,” but so many of us quietly move through life without a strong sense of identity or any idea who we truly are. Instead of feeling grounded in our values, needs, and desires, we find themselves swept up in expectations, obligations, and the opinions of others.

A weak sense of self doesn’t always announce itself loudly, it shows up in subtle but exhausting ways. That might look like constantly seeking approval, shapeshifting your personality, struggling to set boundaries, feeling resentful, and living in a state of chronic overwhelm.

As a therapist, one of the most common themes I witness in couples therapy, individual sessions, and even family work is the difficulty people have with saying “I’m sorry.” Apologies can be incredibly vulnerable. They require us to face ourselves, admit our fallibility, and—perhaps hardest of all—risk being rejected or judged in response.

While on the surface, saying sorry might seem like a simple phrase, the emotional landscape beneath it is often complex and deep. Let's explore why saying sorry can be so hard in relationships and how we can begin to shift communication patterns to feel safer and more connected.

If you’ve ever heard someone say, “EMDR changed my life,” and thought… What even is that?—you’re not alone.

As a therapist trained in EMDR (which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), I get that question all the time. The name alone sounds clinical and kind of mysterious, and the idea of moving your eyes to process trauma might make you raise an eyebrow. That’s okay. I felt the same way when I first heard about it too.

But here’s the thing: EMDR isn’t magic—but it is powerful.

Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. But let’s be honest: it’s not always easy to express yourself clearly, especially when emotions like anger, sadness, or frustration get in the way. Miscommunication can turn a small disagreement into a full-blown conflict, leaving both partners feeling misunderstood and disconnected.

When someone you love is battling mental health challenges, it’s natural to feel unsure about how to help. You want to support them, but it can be hard to know what they truly need—or how to navigate your own emotions in the process.

Friendships are often the unsung heroes of our emotional lives. They’re not bound by the same structures as family or romantic relationships, but they can carry just as much—if not more—emotional weight. When a friendship ends, it can leave you feeling raw, confused, and heartbroken.